Do I intend taking you readers on a walk-through of the Indian Military Academy? No. There won’t be any OG-clad soldiers sprinting along with the words in this post. There won’t be any shorts-clad RSS sevaks too waiting to guide you into some disciplinary mumbo jumbo unique to them. I just want to take you into the heart of discipline. We’re going to talk of discipline that involves no marching on any drill square… but something that will give your home and your office the sort of look that makes life so much easier.
In the kitchen of my home we have every sort of masala and other ingredients that are used there and each one that has a label is always looking straight into your eyes. The cosmetics kept on the dresser follow this discipline and so does the stuff kept in the small almirah shelf that acts like a store for our toiletries. The books in the Study, the clothes on our hangers, the hangers themselves, the clothes out on the balcony and drying… wherever you look you’ll find them all silently following my command of ‘Chest out – Shoulders back – Chin up’.
Try this command on yourself for a start. Say Chest out – Shoulders back – Chin up and you’ll soon be looking at a new you. You’re looking straight ahead and right into the eyes of anyone who is standing before you. You’ll like it. You’ll love it.
Twenty-eight years back when I got married, this was among the first things I told my wife. Specky nodded, smiled, and said, ‘No wonder we’re together. I’m so like you.’
‘I said, ‘I learnt this while at the Indian Military Academy. My instructor told us this is something we have to remember all our lives. He also said that this is something that every object around us must follow.’
‘Well,’ said Specky, ‘I was never in the army but even I like to walk straight… and live straight.’ We smiled and knew we were indeed made for each other.
Let me tell you here that before I cleared my CDSE and joined the IMA, I was a real slob. I took pride in calling my room ‘the universe of chaos’ and my mother was quite fed up of cleaning my room. I don’t remember how other objects were kept in our home but all that I remember is that I really had to sweat it out every time I went searching for something in my room. Even books were kept with a lot of them having their spine facing away from me. I do remember that even when I had to search for something in the kitchen, I always had to shout to my mother, ‘Mummy, which container has sugar?’
And then my mother shouted back, ‘The first shelf has all of the ingredients you need to make you tea.’ So I had to open the containers and find out the ones that had tea leaves and sugar. There was no discipline in our kitchen then. Every bottle, every container ‘slouched’ and went on with their lives in a rather dis-organised way!
But all this changed in the first week at the Academy.
We were taught that every Brother compatible labels needs to face the user and that everything has a specific place on the table in the room. This was all new to me.
I mumbled, ‘This is ridiculous. Why must the toothpaste be kept first and then the shaving cream tube? Why must they always be on the left side of the dresser top? Why must they be kept so as I am able to read what is written on them?’
One of my seniors there gently told me that this is because even if I got up in the dead of night and there was no electricity, I’d pick up my toothbrush without disturbing anything else and I’d even put toothpaste on it even with my eyes closed! Believe it or not, I actually did all this after spending barely a fortnight there. I was asked to enter each cabin there in the platoon quarters and see for myself how things were laid out. I saw and I learnt.
‘But why do we call this a Chest out – Shoulders back – Chin up sequence here sir?’
‘Because this is what you are going to learn to do in life. And if you do it and become a good man, every object, even the inanimate ones need to do it so as not to disturb the fabric of discipline anywhere.’
I know this will sound strange to a lot of readers… but let me just show you a few comparative pictures of things kept in my home. You’ll understand what I am trying to say.
So as I was saying, Specky and I discovered that we loved the house to reflect a sort of discipline that would remove every possibility of chaos from it. So now in our kitchen we know that the sugar container is the second from the left and the one next to it is has the tea-leaves. We know where the salt container is… and never do any of us tend to pick the wrong one even if we are groping in the dark.
The dressing table has every cosmetic facing us and happily in the Chest out – Shoulders back – Chin up position! So I never have to lift bottles, turn them around, and read what they contain… I can read their label even from a distance. The hangers always face away from us and the open side of the shirts always face the same direction. The trousers are on the hangers with the bottoms facing out.
If you think this discipline is repressive, think again. Look at the man hours you’ll be wasting in just searching things or simply changing your posture according to the waywardness of the way things are kept. This is one habit that tends to follow you out into your office and even when you are in a public place. You’ll just keep creating laws and rules of conduct for yourself… you’ll stop spitting anywhere… you’ll refrain from throwing an empty packet of a snack on the road… and you’ll probably write about it all in some blog post somewhere some time!
Chest out – Shoulders back – Chin up isn’t a repressive command… it is a mantra that I learnt at the Academy and it has helped me be a better man. It taught me to look ahead with all the confidence that I can muster… and obviously I want even inanimate objects to smile with that same positivity in my home , my office, and wherever I happen to be.
The pictures that I have added are because I want the readers to ‘see’ the difference between a life that is chaotic and the poetry of a life where discipline has managed to reach!
The story doesn’t end here. My son Pushkin, who is in London, has been seeing us do this day in and day out… and when we went there in 2010, we found that every little nook where he was staying smartly saluted and shouted, ‘Chest out – Shoulders back – Chin up, sir!’
I am sharing what ‘I Saw and I Learnt‘ at BlogAdda.com in association with DoRight.in.
Arvind Passey
23 July 2013
Note: This post is a winner in the contest:
43 comments
Himanshu says:
Jul 24, 2013
I agree with you. Even if I never went to IMA or anywhere near the Defense forces, then also I know how important, and helpful for us to keep things organized in a certain way, so that we do not have any difficulty when we need that stuff. I am not that disciplined, but yeah, I like things to be organized a bit. Well, who doesn’t? 🙂
Arvind Passey says:
Jul 24, 2013
Thank you, Himanshu… yes, the post was indeed talking about the joys of an organised format!
ADITYA says:
Jul 24, 2013
So you have been to IMA as well. Where not sir?
Anyways, delightful post. 🙂
I also make sure that I am and things around me are always Chest out – Shoulders back – Chin up.
This is especially with my shirts. I am way too finicky when it comes to keeping them properly tucked in.
Arvind Passey says:
Jul 24, 2013
Yes, Aditya… this formula is also vastu-friendly for those who find discipline stifling.
Aditi says:
Jul 24, 2013
Wonderful post. I truly do believe that discipline in all forms of your life makes it more fun!! Few say that the two words don’t go with each other but then they haven’t looked at the world with chest out – shoulders back – chin up. 🙂
Arvind Passey says:
Jul 24, 2013
True… there is so much joy in this attitude. It is just a matter of getting accustomed to it as a way of life.
Sakshi Nanda says:
Jul 24, 2013
Why I most look forward to your posts is for one very big reason – You can make your thinking cap take you where all others fail. You can see ideas in bottles and discipline in containers. And then, you can beautifully give your wife her place in the write-up, in the easy, impeccable, conversational style your pen enjoys. You are unbeatable! For goodness’s sake, stop competing with us amateurs. 🙂
Arvind Passey says:
Jul 24, 2013
…and you do know how to make a 50-something 21 year old so very happy! 🙂 Thank you, Sakshi.
Vivek says:
Jul 24, 2013
You have an art of story telling , messaging , preaching , teaching etc…in the most lucid manner. I simply loved this post for the very reason that i was a cadet and then later, an officer in shipping industry.Those early years of life taught me some basic tenets of life which have been the most valuable ones. Discipline is something that neither an individual nor an entire nation should do away with. If only people could learn one thing in their entire life time it has to be discipline , rest everything will fall in line.
Do also suggest how do you teach others to pick up this practice without sounding like a Sergeant or an old , unconventional and boring dude :):)
Arvind Passey says:
Jul 24, 2013
Preaching. Teaching. You almost made me duck… these are bullets that can knock anyone down immediately! 🙂
But thanks for liking the post, Vivek bhai. 🙂
Vivek says:
Jul 24, 2013
Oh !! Don’t duck please 🙂 When i used ‘Teach & Preach’ the reference was to the videos that you shoot so aesthetically and include it as a part of the posts. For me they are like reference points and i find them quite informative. The choice of words might have looked like bullets but they were rubber ones :)Read the post again and liked it !!
Arvind Passey says:
Jul 24, 2013
I fully understand that you liked and appreciated the post… I was just having a bit of fun. 🙂
The Fool says:
Jul 24, 2013
Nice one, Mr. Passey. Even I am a believer in this. In our line of business, we call this 5S.
Arvind Passey says:
Jul 24, 2013
Yes, now that Rachna has explained the Kaizen connection, I can understand… thanks for liking the post, TF! 🙂
Rachna says:
Jul 24, 2013
Discipline is very important in life. You rightly pointed that out. I would rather label the kitchen jars than rely on the second from left or third from right approach. But that is just me. Glad you and your wife were on the same page for this. Because otherwise one partner can get stifled with following orders. I must admit that I do like a bit of chaos or as I call it a lived-in feel to the house :).
Arvind Passey says:
Jul 24, 2013
Thanks for letting me know this: ‘5S are Kaizen Principles that stand for Sort, Set in Order, Shine, Standardize, and Sustain loosely translated from their Japanese equivalent! Used in Lean consulting.’ I have a lot to learn…
And yes, chaos too has it’s benefits… I call the six smartphones, the two tablets, the laptop, the three dozen books, and other tech and non-tech stuff on my study table a ‘disciplined chaos’ where i am able to locate anything within seconds but my wife will simply stand there, helpless. 🙂
poonam dogra says:
Jul 24, 2013
Aah!! you touched my ‘dukhti rug’.. who would know better than an army wife.. you are lucky to have Specky by your side who adapted to your set of rules..but alas, my husband wasn’t.. he had to put up with me , the most disorganized person in the universe..once a fauji always a fauji, as they say.. army makes you guys annoyingly disciplinarian and perfectionists.. he instilled in me the inferiority complex coz I could never match upto him.. The minute he enters my kitchen, sparks fly.. but that is my work station, why he has to intrude there.. do I interfere at his work place.. I make good food that he and his cronies love.. shudnt that be enough.. After settling in this gora land, he does help me with the salad sometimes.. and anyone can see the moolis and gajars and mirchis in perfect discipline, all trimmed and sized and lined up on the plate..lol.. his side of the bathroom has all his brushes n pastes and moisturisers lined up perfectly like his fauji days..well, I could send a pic but I wont, for obvious reasons..hehe.. well I can go on and on ..but I am sure you wont appreciate it, as I am your (army’s)worst critic.. well loved reading your write-up..and think I will look forward for more..;)..
Arvind Passey says:
Jul 24, 2013
Now then… this one is an entire post, I must say. Interesting. I was actually smiling as I was reading your words, Poonam. 🙂
Proactive Indian says:
Jul 25, 2013
Excellent post! I learnt the same thing as a child simply by observing my grandfather and practise it at home and workplace.
Arvind Passey says:
Jul 26, 2013
…which actually tells me that my post took the right direction. Thank you for calling it ‘excellent!’ 🙂
Proactive Indian says:
Aug 20, 2013
Congratulations! Well deserved!!
Arvind Passey says:
Aug 20, 2013
Do read the other posts too, please… I’m sure you’ll love them all. 🙂
Monika says:
Jul 29, 2013
I remember Aunty showing me this style in Eyot House bathroom! 🙂 And yes Pushkin is following this style very well and i am learning as well! Really enjoyed reading this post.
Arvind Passey says:
Jul 29, 2013
Thank you, Monika… there is joy in discipline. 🙂
Kalpana Solsi says:
Aug 19, 2013
congrats Arvind Passey
Arvind Passey says:
Aug 19, 2013
Thank you, Kalpana… 🙂
Anita says:
Aug 19, 2013
Discipline can mean a lot! Very in-depth analysis! Discipline can also make one win! Congrats for yours!
Arvind Passey says:
Aug 19, 2013
Thank you Anita… The analysis was just a replication of what we do everyday, and so I wouldn’t call it in-depth. However, thank you for your applause. 🙂
Tejaswini says:
Aug 19, 2013
Discipline paves way for organization. The more you are organized outside, the more you become organised in the head, too.
Congratulations for the win,sir.
Arvind Passey says:
Aug 19, 2013
Thanks a lot, Tejaswini… yes, discipline is indeed the backbone for survival of individuals as well as organisations. 🙂
Neoimaginations says:
Aug 19, 2013
A post worth emulating in life. Loved Chest out, Shoulders back, Chin Up. U taught a way of life.
Arvind Passey says:
Aug 20, 2013
Thank you… nice to know that my post is read carefully! 🙂
Monika Bakshi says:
Aug 20, 2013
Many Congratulations! 😀
Arvind Passey says:
Aug 20, 2013
Thank you, Monika… 🙂
Monika Bakshi says:
Aug 20, 2013
BTW, I liked the moral of the post – I shall follow this from now on…A BIG thank you!
Arvind Passey says:
Aug 20, 2013
The post has one little facet of what we follow at home… and I must add here that discipline isn’t restrictive at all, it is liberating! Think about it. 🙂
Nisha says:
Aug 20, 2013
Such an amazing post! I think this will stay with me. Congratulations!
Arvind Passey says:
Aug 20, 2013
Such heart-warming words… love them. I’m going to cherish your words forever! 🙂
Thank you for reading and liking the post, Nisha.
preethi prasan says:
Aug 20, 2013
sir…i must say…i am a totally hap hazard, scatter brained person and your post has truly motivated me to try. I could not help but smile at “Look at the man hours you’ll be wasting in just searching things”, that perfectly describes what I do. 🙂 Each and every point you have mentioned is absolutely practical. From home to office…the way every place is maintained shows our discipline and i guess it has to be made a way of life rather than a rule to follow. thank you for sharing your thoughts…it has surely made an impact on me 🙂
Arvind Passey says:
Aug 20, 2013
Coming from the winner in that contest, I am indeed honoured. Thank you for liking the post… hope you’ll read the other posts as well, Preethi. 🙂
preethi prasan says:
Aug 21, 2013
you are too kind sir..as always i lost focus. i opened your post to wish you and instead was so engrossed in the post i finally did not :O congrats to you 🙂
Arvind Passey says:
Aug 21, 2013
Oh… well, thank you so much. 🙂
Arvind Passey says:
Oct 14, 2013
Just wanted to ask you if the prize has been delivered or not? I don’t seem to have got my prize yet.