Conversations worth remembering are not always with nutty professors and snooty CEOs of companies or with shifty politicians and creepy administrators. I’ve had conversations with cities and loved it so much that I started having conversations with every unlikely subject. This included pillows, torn bills in the bin, and paragraphs on moth-eaten pages of a book read ages back… but the conversation that went on like a serial on the telly has been the one I had with the loveliest kid on earth. That’s me. Yes, conversations with the #ChildWithin has happened in a series of scenes. Let me recount a few for you here.
Scene 01. Inside the Windsor Palace souvenir shop. Near London.
There is a lovely fluffy toy crown with all the golden stars in place. I look at it, smile and am about to move on when a voice stops me.
‘That’s a crown for the king! I want to wear it now. Now! Now!! Now!!!’
I look around carefully and whisper, ‘Not now. This is a souvenir shop and we’ll be kicked out for sure.’
‘No, I want to wear that crown. Now! And I want a picture too of me wearing that crown.’
‘Don’t be daft,’ I say firmly, ‘And no tantrums please.’
Silence for a few seconds… and then this voice that sounds so much like mine, booms, ‘You cannot move forward. You cannot buy fridge magnets or your favourite boxes with silly piles of fudge until I wear this crown. Now! Pl…e…a…s…e, I so want to wear a crown.’
‘Ok,’ I say and call Specky, my wife to click a picture of me wearing a crown. I think I am lucky I wasn’t caught in the act and thrown out for this. Fact is that I generally succumb to and happily catch the temptation bullets that the child within flings at me. Always.
I remember this kid inside wanted to hum a song once inside the American Library on Kasturba Marg in New Delhi and wouldn’t let me focus on some tough piece on marketing fundas that I was reading in the Harvard Business Review there. So I hummed and hummed loudly until the assistant librarian walked up to me and whispered, ‘I’m afraid you will have to leave sir. Now.’
‘It wasn’t me,’ I protested, ‘but the child within.’ But she didn’t pay heed though she smiled and we were great friends later and laughed over the way the child inside me makes me do everything that she herself is unable to do most of the time.
Scene 02. The cycling circuit around windmills near Amsterdam.
The windmills were fascinating. The cycling through the Dutch countryside was refreshing. Soon we reached a spot amidst the windmills where there was a cheese-making demonstration going on in one part and clogs or wooden shoes were being made. In the open space outside were a few giant clogs painted in Dutch style… these were big enough for humans to stand or sit or even slip right inside to have a short nap. I’m not sure if it was the Frisian klomps or the tourists clicking empty shoes that catalyzed the kid within but I bent my head a bit to my right and listened carefully to this voice.
‘Hey! Listen to me. Step inside any of these klomps and you’ll have a new story to tell the world.’
‘Ha!’ I said, ‘These tourists will certainly have a few more horror stories about unruly tourists from India for sure.’
‘No, no… believe me, you’d be starting a trend.’
Shut up, my friend!’ I said.
‘Sit. Sit. Sit. Now. Now. Now. In the klomp. In the klomp. In the klomp.’
‘You’re incorrigible,’ I said, ‘Let me ask Specky.’ So I asked my wife what she thought of stepping into one of those giant shoes and have a picture clicked. She had horror written all over her face and she asked if I was intent on being childish again. The Windsor palace incident wasn’t yet forgotten though it had happened three years ago.
I asked my son and daughter-in-law and they both smiled and nodded a silent yes. And so we stepped into one giant yellow coloured shoe and the child within whooped with joy!
Scene 03. Somewhere in Suru Valley near Kargil.
We were in a cab and were travelling from Kargil to a small village where a massive Buddha was carved on a boulder. This wasn’t visible from the road and we had to leave the cab and walk on a stone-strewn path between green fields to the edge of the start of a steep incline. It was here that this voice of a child within awoke and suddenly shouted, ‘Stop!’
I stopped. Specky stopped. The cab driver stopped. Even the two kids pulling a wooden cart over a broad furrow on the outer perimeter of a field stopped. I guess even the black crow sitting on the tree stopped and looked on curiously. Everyone anyway stops and stares at tourists in our country. The funny thing is that even though it was I who had stopped, it was me who asked aloud, ‘Why? What happened?’
Specky said, ‘You stopped. So I guess you know why you stopped.’ That was when I realized that the child within me had again though of some prank and I asked myself, ‘Another prank?’
‘No. Not pranks. Never. No pranks ever. These are just interludes to let you know that there is more to life than being adult. Ha! Ha!’
‘So I see,’ I said, ‘now what is that you want me to do? Sit in that cart there, is it?
‘You guessed it right. Yes, today is our wooden wheel-barrow ride day. Enjoy.’
And so I simply walked up to the boys and asked them if I could share their vehicle for some time. They were suitably dumbfounded to do or say anything. So I stepped into the cart that already had its front wheel in the furrow. The boys were sporting enough to pull the cart out on the path and give me a ride for a few yards. They laughed loudly. We laughed loudly. I guess even the crow must have laughed in its own cawing way.
Scene 04. At home with my Samsung Tab.
I have mentioned earlier that the child within has a tendency to pop up suddenly at the most unlikely moments. I remember I was sitting in my Study at home, searching for an idea to illustrate a post on new ideas when this irreverent kid inside me knocked. Yes, this kid doesn’t always speak or shout but even knocks.
‘Stop knocking, kiddy,’ I said jokingly.
‘OK. Then listen carefully. Ideas are always cranky. Ideas show and don’t just tell. Ideas are as revolutionary as the mad hatter.’
‘Ok,’ I said, ‘but this doesn’t leave me with any idea for an illustration.’
‘An idea needs to be charged.’
‘Ok,’ I said, ‘but how?’
‘Charge it like you charge your tab.’
This was too obfuscating for me and I said, ‘I have work to do. I need to search. Stop bugging me now, kiddo.’
‘Your brain has the power. Your Tab needs to be charged. Brain. Tab. Brain. Tab. Do it. Do it. Do it.’
The kid within has its own style of making me do things and so I inserted the cable into my tablet and placed the charging adapter on my temple and said, ‘Is this…’ I cut myself short because I realized that the kid had actually given me exactly what I was looking for. Obviously I got my picture clicked with the tab display showing a vector of a bulb and it remains as one of my favourite shots till date.
The child within as the conversationalist
I am no psychologist but I believe that the child within is not just a brilliant conversationalist but is probably the best judge we can dream of. Lose the child there and you risk losing sanity. This kid inside is not just the soul of wit but is the real traveller, the die-hard romantic, the ace judge, the insightful pal, and, therefore, the loveliest kid on earth for any individual. I agree with Hugh MacLeod who wrote: Everyone is born creative; everyone is given a box of crayons in kindergarten. Then when you hit puberty they take the crayons away and replace them with dry, uninspiring books on algebra, history, etc. Being suddenly hit years later with the ‘creative bug’ is just a wee voice telling you, ‘I’d like my crayons back, please.’
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This post is published for #OpenNTalk Blogger’s League hosted by Gleefulblogger & Wigglingpen in association with SummerBarn, Vedantika Herbals, Nyassa, Explore Kids World.
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Our group of 5 bloggers goes by the hashtag #NISSATalks and have decided to present five different perspectives to a single topic with a unique hashtag each week. For week 02 our hashtag is #ChildWithin and you can also read what the others in the group wrote:
Ishieta wrote: Click here
Sudha wrote: Click here
Nupur wrote: Click here
Silja wrote: Click here
Arvind wrote: That’s me, silly! ?
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Arvind Passey
15 June 2018
28 comments
Sudha says:
Jun 15, 2018
That was the most fabulous piece of work I read in a long time. Your
writing style has left me asking for more. Loved each moment you shared showing us the child within truly lies in enjoying these little moments that keep happy memories alive. Yes and the last few lines you shared were so insightful.
#NISSATalks
Arvind Passey says:
Jun 16, 2018
Thanks for reading this post. I enjoyed writing it as this one was all about inducing words to trap fun and joy. This is entirely different from meandering through loads of stats and then reaching logical conclusions. Your comments are always full of insights… hope you continue reading my posts. 🙂
Anami says:
Jun 15, 2018
Awweesome it is !! I was smiling the entire time I was reading this. Lovely photos and my salute to you and to the child within you.
– Anami from #InvincibleGang for #OpenNTalk #Week2
Arvind Passey says:
Jun 16, 2018
Ah! A smile on a reader’s face is exactly what this post was written for. Thanks for reading, commenting, and liking my post, Anami. 🙂
Silja Nair says:
Jun 15, 2018
Loved reading it & wonderful use of each pictures. #NISSATalks
Arvind Passey says:
Jun 16, 2018
Thanks again for being such a strong pillar for the group and ensuring that our group hashtag gets a good visibility. Thanks for reading, liking, and commenting on this post, Silja. 🙂
Nupur says:
Jun 15, 2018
It really feels like your inner child took over the narration of this post too ? I love the way you listen, and do all these wonderful things! Just the right way to live life..
Cheers!
Nupur
#Nissatalks #openntalk
Arvind Passey says:
Jun 16, 2018
Yes, you’re right… my inner child did take over and insisted that I write only what it dictates. 🙂 I guess I did write in following that voice that many of us overlook or choose not to listen to. Thanks for your presence, Nupur.
Mayuri Nidigallu says:
Jun 16, 2018
Such a refreshing thought and post!
Keeping the child within alive, and entertained, recharges us. Love the pictures you shared too.
#OpenNTalk #JAMSS2018
Arvind Passey says:
Jun 16, 2018
Thanks for reaching our, Mayuri… thanks for reading and liking this post. Hope to see you back on my blog for more. 🙂
Ishieta says:
Jun 16, 2018
This is an absolutely adorable post! The #Childwithin is such a fascinating and fun being 🙂
absolutely loved the photographs and the joy in this post.
Arvind Passey says:
Jun 16, 2018
Thank you, Ishieta… yes, this one was a fun post with travel running through the length and breadth of the article. Do visit the blog again. 🙂
Aditi Kapur says:
Jun 16, 2018
Hahaha exciting write up sir. We all have a child within who doesn’t want to grow up! Feed the child and you’ll never grow old;)
Loved your style.
Arvind Passey says:
Jun 21, 2018
Thanks a lot, Aditi. Sorry for this delayed response… was away on a vacation and trekking in Chakrata.
So yes, the child within certainly needs and deserves to be pampered and not simply heard. 🙂 Do visit my blog again.
Priyanka says:
Jun 16, 2018
I enjoyed the post and the pics. It was lovely meeting the kid in you! 🙂
#OpenNTalk #CrossBorderSisters
Arvind Passey says:
Jun 21, 2018
Ah! You’ve just met that kid in virtual space yet, Priyanka… wait until you happen to meet the kid in the real world. I’m sure you will love that kid as well. 🙂
Deepa says:
Jun 17, 2018
Beautiful write up. Enjoyed reding it.This is my first visit on your blog and I am surely coming back for more. Good to connect through #OpenNtalk.
#Bloggingdivas
Arvind Passey says:
Jun 21, 2018
Thanks for your visit, Deepa… and yes, please do visit again. I’m sure you’ll a lot here that you will find utterly readable. 🙂
Sayeri says:
Jun 18, 2018
I loved your writing style. Its so unique and have the rich flavor. #BloggerBabes #OpeNTalk
Arvind Passey says:
Jun 21, 2018
Much encouraged by your words of appreciation, Sayeri. Do visit the blog again. 🙂
Mayura Amarkant says:
Jun 18, 2018
This is such a FANTASTIC post…I love the way it has been written and presented. Arvind Passey! Give your self a pat on the back!! Please keep writing and bringing such heartwarming posts to us. Btw, loved your picture with the crown, you truly ARE a king :).
#RoarWillRock
Arvind Passey says:
Jun 21, 2018
Ha! Ha! That picture with a crown was the one that was making me rather nervous when I decided to share it with this post… but then, the kid in me obviously won. 🙂 Thanks for liking the post… do visit the blog again.
Varsha Bagadia says:
Jun 18, 2018
I wish we all talked to our child within in the same fun way you do! Was smiling throughout the post and wondering just how many times I asked the child inside me to ‘grow up’. Next time I’ll remember this post and let it just be. 🙂
#OpenNTalk #BloggerBabes
Arvind Passey says:
Jun 21, 2018
Frankly, even I sometimes ask the kid within to grow up… but that kid is persistent, I can assure you. I guess I have given it such a long rope and been so lenient that it is now impossible to ask that kid to stop being one. 🙂
Nehal Roy says:
Jun 19, 2018
I loved the way your write. Wanna read more n more of your posts. Keep sharing as they spreads smiles. Thanks a lot
#OpenNTalk #BloggerBabes
Arvind Passey says:
Jun 21, 2018
Thanks a lot, Nehal. Yes, please do visit the blog as it will be making the writer in me say Yahoo!, Eureka!, and Yeah! with happiness. 🙂
Swarupa says:
Jul 2, 2018
Never let this kid stop talking.. The best way to live life is to listen them. Great post.. Keep the livelihood up!! #BloggerBabes #OpenNTalk
Arvind Passey says:
Jul 4, 2018
Thank you, Swarupa. And yes, the kid within must be kept live and kicking… always. 🙂